Do What Works

Part of being Mindful is to focus on what works for you. Do what needs to be done in each situation and don’t judge yourself. For instance, when you get angry with someone ask yourself, “Is this effective?” When you want to climb into bed and forget the world ask yourself that same question.

It may be a horrible day, things aren’t going my way, I feel anxious and disturbed. I have found that one of the most effective ways to be mindful is giving thanks. Being grateful. How many times can I thank God for what He’s given me today? It changes my perspective.

It can be especially difficult to be thankful when you’re having a bad day. But mindfulness to me is seeing what is in the emotion and what is outside of it. If I am angry, it may be an opportunity to set something straight. I can be mindful of my feelings and explore what it is that is making me angry and then I can consult Wise Mind (God) on how to deal with it effectively.

Being mindful is not acting out on those anger urges but exploring them in our minds. Being thankful and being angry cannot exist together at the same time. If I explore what I am thankful for while angry I can usually come up with a way to talk to the person I am angry with in a loving way. If I am angry about a situation I can usually change my mind to the things for which I am grateful in spite of the situation.

“Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Jesus Christ.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18


I read in Jesus Calling July 24 the following:
“Thankfulness opens the door to my Presence. I have gone to great measures to preserve your freedom of choice. I have placed a door between you and me and I have empowered you to open or close that door. There are many ways to open it but a grateful attitude is one of the most effective.”

DBT (Dialectic Behavior Therapy) says to let go of vengeance, useless anger, and righteousness that hurts you and simply doesn’t work. I understand that can be easier said than done when you are in the heat of the moment, but mindfully looking outside of these emotions and focusing on gratefulness may be the answer for you as it is for me.
How many things can you be thankful for today? Really thankful? Focus on those things mindfully and you will see your perspective change.

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